7 BEST sex Position to Last Longer in Bed .. (7 photos)

We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty details of how we might actually achieve those things? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the specifics. This week’s topic: The best sex positions to help him last longer in bed.

Q: My boyfriend is awesome, but he struggles with lasting very long during sex. I know he’s trying to hold out, but he usually orgasms in under five minutes. Are there certain positions we can try to help him last longer? I know doggy-style is a no-go, because he could come in less than 30 seconds in that position! We’re able to talk about this openly, and he’s willing to try anything.

A: Five minutes is pretty standard for most men, but that timeline can be frustrating for women, since we require around 20 minutes to reach orgasm! Fortunately, there are plenty of things you can do to help him last longer, including changing up your sex position repertoire.
In general, you’re looking for positions that create relatively shallow penetration, since deep thrusting (like what you do in doggy-style) can send most men right over the edge. You also want positions that encourage slow and steady sex over fast and pounding. Positions that are tiring or tricky physically can also help him last longer, since he’ll have to devote some of his attention to balancing.
You can also try changing positions a few times when you have sex, which will give him an opportunity to take a quick breather and readjust his pace. Here are seven great positions you’ll both enjoy.